International Father's Mental Health Day: Looking After Your Mental Health As A New Father

  • Roma Patel
  • June 21, 2021

Becoming a parent is one of the most life-changing, transitional events a person can experience. So much changes so quickly, and the responsibility for looking after a newborn can be overwhelming. Everything is new. Unknown. Weighty. 

There is growing evidence that suggests fathers and non-birthing partners need significant mental health support during the perinatal period. According to Dr Daniel Singley, Director of the Center for Men’s Excellence, around 10% of fathers experience mental health challenges during the first year after the birth of their child. Additionally, a staggering 50% of men develop postpartum depression if their partner has it too. 

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Support is often limited. Resources are largely untapped. And many people still don’t recognise the impact of a birth on men - they are predominantly overlooked. Quite apart from supporting their partners through perinatal mental ill-health, fathers often don’t consider their own mental health, let alone seek support if they are struggling. 

So how can you begin to look after your mental health as a new father? 

Keep connected

According to the Movember Foundation Charity, ‘new dads with no good friends…struggled more with the inevitable stress brought on by parenthood.’

We cannot underline enough how important it is to stay connected to people you can be honest with. It could be a brother, best friend, close work colleague or all three. People who ask how you are… and who aren’t afraid of a negative response. People who have got your back and who would drop anything for you. 

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In spite of the demands and time constraints of having a newborn around, it is vital to keep those connections alive - even if it’s a WhatsApp message like ‘It’s been really difficult this week - not sure I’m coping very well’ or grabbing a quick coffee or beer before or after work. Let these people come into the mess of your life - they want to be there for you and it could keep you from spiralling. 

Mark Williams, who leads Father’s Reaching Out, a charity all about fatherhood and mental health says, ‘when all new parents are supported for their mental health, it has far better outcomes for the whole family and the child’s development.’

Get resourced

Another way to look after your mental health as a new father is to wise up on helpful resources. It could be a book, social media channel (check out fathers_mentalhealth and men.excel on Instragram), podcast or meditation app. Work out what fits your personality type and get searching! 

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Often good resources help give perspective to the problems we’re facing and the emotions we’re feeling; they can offer practical solutions and a sense of hope; they can point us in the right direction to receive help and guidance. 

Book recommendations

Book titled: Parental Mental Health: Factoring in Fathers

Parental Mental Health: Factoring in Fathers  - this book opens up the conversation about men in the perinatal phase of parenthood, purposefully fostering a non-gendered approach to familial mental health issues. It also raises awareness about ‘best practices in the care for expectant and new fathers’. 

Book titled: New Fathers, Mental Health and Digital Communication

New Fathers, Mental Health and Digital Communication - this was released in February this year and focuses on the role of digital media as a part of a holistic approach to coping with poor mental health. It considers ‘selective forms of disconnection’ as well as opportunities to seek online support or information. If you’re finding it hard to recognise your struggles as legitimate and reach out for help - this book is for you. 

Specific support

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If you feel like you might need more tailored support or advice, visit Mental Health America or National Alliance on Mental Illness. There is always someone out there who can help.

International Father’s Mental Health Day - June 21st

Logo for International Fathers Mental Health Day

It is recognised that fathers are playing a greater role in the practicalities of raising and bonding with a child - a dramatic change over the last 50 years even. The demands on a father can feel overwhelming - the need to balance a demanding work life whilst remaining supportive emotionally and practically to all that is going on at home. And don’t even think about throwing in sleepless nights too! 

This year, on June 21st, watch out for a series of blogs, press releases and resources shared by charities, support groups, health professionals, and families who have experienced the impact of poor mental health in fathers. And follow #DadsMHDay.

Facebook event

There will be a Facebook Live session 5pm Pacific/ 8pm Eastern on June 21st, hosted by Dr Danny Singley, on the International Fathers’ Mental Health Day Facebook page. Dr Mayers, one of the event contributors, said, ‘At the very least, we hope to raise awareness about fathers’ mental health and I really hope that we can encourage more men to come forward to seek help. The next challenge will be to ensure that we have the services and support networks to meet that demand.’

Whatever your circumstances - remember, you’re not alone. You’re not an isolated individual. There is hope and help.

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